Staying Connected with Yourself While with Family
1h 15m
Rita Herzog, Certified NVC Trainer:
This audio training with expert trainer Rita Herzog explores the NVC alternative to family relationships: stay grounded in your own needs and values so you are able to reach out with empathy to family members. Sound easy? Listen to what Rita has to say about her own pattern in her family and see if you can relate. Rita says, “As a child, I did not hear my family talk about feelings, so I was seldom in touch with my own emotions. I learned not to ask for what I wanted to protect myself from disappointment. Gradually, I lost contact with my needs, my wishes, my dreams and my heart's desire. Practicing NVC has helped me to reclaim my identity as a unique human being. Now I can use my feelings as clues to uncover the deepest, most treasured part of me — my needs, what I value and how I want to live my life.”
When your family sees you as the person you were in the past, the old patterns of the family system start to emerge alive and well, and your hard-won sense of self starts to melt away. How do you respond?
Without meaning to, many of us react in one of two ways to this dilemma:
1) We lapse right back into the family dynamics we have struggled to overcome and lose our sense of self in the process;
Or
2) We protect the persons we have become by staying distant and lose the chance to create the family closeness that we have long desired.
NVC offers an alternative. Listen to this compelling audio and explore new possibilities with Rita.
Keywords:
- empathy
- feelings
- needs
- presence
- requests
- compassion
- connection
- gratitude
- inspiration
- listening
- families
- relationships
- family
- family communication
- family conflict
- Rita Herzog