How to Use Positive Language When Making Requests
Beyond NVC Basics
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5m 35s
Yoram Mosenzon, Certified NVC Trainer: Yoram Mosenzon suggests that when we make positive language requests, we tell people what we want. We give them an image of what would make life more wonderful. What we usually do is tell people what we do not want. This tends to create resistance.
For example: How do you feel when I say Stop asking me questions all of the time? What about if I say Would you be willing to write down your questions and I can get to them when I am done with this? Which version supports cooperation?
Keywords:
- language of life
- requests
- children
- cooperation
- connection
- Yoram Mosenzon
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