Four D's of Disconnection: Diagnosis, Denial, Demand, Deserve
NVC Beginner's Pathway/ NVC Basics
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8m 25s
Mary Mackenzie, Certified NVC Trainer: Mary Mackenzie shares how Marshall Rosenberg's Four D's of Disconnection live in her. Join Mary and learn how you can reframe the 4 D's to enhance connection.
1. Diagnosis (judgment, analysis, criticism, comparison); 2. Denial of Responsibility; 3. Demand; 4. 'Deserve' oriented language.
Keywords:
- integrating NVC
- diagnosis
- deserve
- denial
- demands
- needs
- Mary Mackenzie
- Marshall Rosenberg
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