Dian Killian, Certified NVC Trainer
Time Investment: 5 hours 29 minutes, plus handouts
Recorded in 2021

When Dian works with managers, they often ask how they can manage others more effectively. She almost always asks them: how are you managing yourself?

This question applies to all aspects of life, both at work and at home. How are you: 1) gaining clarity around your needs; 2) managing your internal reactions; and 3) clarifying your requests before you open your mouth (or judge) others? This is why self-empathy – which Dian calls “self-management,” now a buzzword in business – is central to the practice of Nonviolent Communication.

Yet self-empathy is not always easy, especially if events in your life stimulate old, “fossilized” needs. These “fossilized” needs are often precognitive and connected to trauma, and as a result, “live” in your muscle memory. In order to fully release this “stuck” energy, it is necessary to engage your felt-sense while learning to empathize with your body and deeply connect with your younger parts.

𝗗𝗶𝗮𝗻 𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗘𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘁𝗵𝘆 (𝗦𝗘𝗘).

𝗗𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂:

• Retreat, collapse, or shut down in the face of push-back or conflict?
• Notice the same situations and stories are occurring again and again?
• Hit blocks internally when practicing self-empathy, and get stuck in your head?
• Want more skill in getting clear about your needs?
• Desire new, more powerful ways of practicing self-empathy?
• Want to create real transformation and change in your life?

𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗻𝘀𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗱 “𝘆𝗲𝘀” 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀, 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗘𝗺𝗯𝗿𝗮𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗕𝗼𝗱𝘆: 𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗰-𝗦𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗘𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘁𝗵𝘆 𝗶𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂!

𝗗𝘂𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀, 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼:

• Deepen your felt-sense
• Discover and practice the “missing step” in the NVC process (somatic awareness)
• Listen deeply to your body and understand its “language”
• Draw on your senses to more deeply practice self-empathy and get past blocks
• Create transformational shifts in your life and with others
• Develop your empathy toolbox with emergency self-empathy “hacks”

𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗲𝗱𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗹𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗹 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗯𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗼 anyone who wants freedom from consistent triggers and blocks… more self-connection and empathy (including with your body)… better understanding of what your body is telling you… greater insight, self-mastery, choice, and more. (Note: If you are new to NVC, please be familiar with the four basic OFNR steps and with making NVC empathy guesses.)

𝗕𝘆 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗲𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘁𝗵𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘀 – 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗼𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗮𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗮𝗱𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗱 – 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗳𝗿𝗲𝗲 𝘂𝗽 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗴𝘆, 𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝗻𝗷𝗼𝘆 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗼𝗺 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲.