Strength and vulnerability often seem to be at odds with one another. But is it possible to have both?

Shantigarbha explores the relationship between strength and vulnerability, showing how both can arise from important human needs such as empowerment, dignity, safety, connection, and contributi...

Shantigarbha explores safety as a universal need and distinguishes the need for safety from the strategies we use to meet it. Through stories from a maximum-security prison and an exploration of self-empathy, resilience, and choice, he considers how inner connection can contribute to a sense of p...

Are you looking to deepen your work in transforming anger?

Part of the process of labeling and pigeonholing people is to create a hostile or ‘enemy’ image of them. It’s the mental equivalent of a visual caricature used for target practice. Relating to the image rather than the person makes it e...

We all know how to escalate an argument. But do we know how to de-escalate arguments even before they become arguments?

Watch Shantigarbha share some tips.

In this Life Hack, we explore ways of creating space for self-empathy when your emotional fuel tanks are low. We suggest practising negotiating a time out with your loved ones so that they know what's going on before things get out of hand.

Shantigarbha explores how couples can experience connection without needing to agree with each other, distinguishing acknowledgement and understanding from agreement or disagreement. Through a playful example, he demonstrates how listening for the needs and impact behind a partner’s words can cre...

We do couples mediation and one thing that we've noticed with couples is that sometimes they really struggle with receiving love in the way that they want to receive it. And asking, 'Do you love me?' can be a risky way of doing this.

Join Shantigarbha and Gesine in a holiday mood as they explor...

In the Needs Cafe, Gesina and Shantigarbha explore a playful, practical way to become more familiar with needs and expand the language available for expressing them. Through a series of exercises using needs disks, they practice different ways of speaking about needs, including “I love,” “I thriv...

Gesine and Shantigarbha introduce the jackal and giraffe puppets as a playful way to explore two different ways of communicating in NVC. Through a role play between a parent and teenager, they contrast jackal language—labels, blame, judgments, demands, and “deserve” thinking—with giraffe language...

In this first of three lessons, Gesine and Shantigarbha introduce the “Tree of Compassionate Connection,” a big-picture map of NVC that illustrates its purpose and learnable skills. They explore compassionate connection as the heart of NVC, with self-empathy and self-connection as the roots and e...

It's easy to view sadness, mourning and grief as something to avoid or maybe even as a waste of time. However, in NVC we learn that these things are actually human needs. And not only are they human needs, they're also close relatives to joy and happiness. In this month's Life Hack, we explore ho...

We live in a very transactional world. You can probably list off a number of subscriptions you might pay for on a monthly basis. This comes down to how we view money. The way many of us relate to money in the west takes away a special thing that can happen. Simply viewing money as a means to buy ...

Gesine Schrader and Shantigarbha Warren explore the difference between compromise and an NVC approach that seeks to honor everyone’s needs. Through a role-play, Gesine demonstrates how empathy, listening, and understanding can shift a conflict from disappointment and resentment toward connection,...

Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: In this NVC Life Hack, we look at those circumstances when we're saying yes ... but only kinda! Because we're still actually saying no. Shantigarbha and Gesine look at the needs that aren't being met.

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- compromise
- tips
- needs
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Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer

It can be difficult to be authentic when that means saying no. So how do we say no in a way that invites people to listen? Here are our four top tips for finding the courage to say no.

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- tips
- saying no
- authenticity
- yes behind t...

Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Leading a Nonviolent Communication workshop is a good way to learn and practice NVC skills. Here are Shantigrabha and Gesine's seven top tips for facilitators.

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- listening
- tips
- sharing NVC
- facilitation
- facilitator
- fa...

Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Mourning is not just a process that happens after someone dies: it's an experience we go through with loss of any kind. Here, Shantigarbha offers us seven tips for working with mourning and healing.

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- presence
- relationships
- tips...

Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Conflict occurs when disagreements undermine the sense of trust and safety in family, workplace, or community. Shantigarbha shares nine tips for addressing, and even transforming conflict.

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- partnership
- tips
- relationships
- pr...

Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Have you ever used the phrase "it was just a miscommunication."? We're often good at identifying when communication breaks down but not so good at finding out what went wrong and how we can improve. In this NVC Life Hack, we take a look at different typ...

Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Anger is an emotion we'd often like to disown! Shantigarbha offers us five tips for "finding the life" in our anger, and ends with a short, guided reflection.

Keywords:

- presence
- relationships
- tips
- partnership
- anger
- Shantigar...

Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: We live in a world where there is a lot of anger. It can be a strong and intense emotion that we feel or receive from others sometimes on a daily basis. Whether that's an agitated partner, road rage, or a disgruntled colleague.

While we're familiar wi...

Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: How can Nonviolent Communication practices support us when we're feeling depressed? Taking a look at some characteristics of depression and how they're linked to unmet needs, we offer some steps to take that help you reconnect with life and others.

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Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Have you been struggling with the difficulties that can arise from working at home? If you're used to working from an office, a space that is designed for work, it can be a shock working from a space that is usually associated with other kinds of activi...

Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Mediation is a great skill to have whether it's for your personal relationships or in the workplace. We look at four different techniques and their benefits in a role-play that takes place in an informal, unorganised setting.

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