Shantigarbha Warren
Shantigarbha is an international NVC trainer, certified with the International Centre for Nonviolent Communication. He teaches on CNVC International Intensive Trainings (IITs), is a CNVC Assessor-in-training working in South Asia, and served on the Social Change and Peacemaking working group.
In 1996 he was ordained into the Triratna Buddhist Order. He was given the name Shantigarbha, which means Seeds of peaceā hence the name of our organization. He currently serves on the Triratna International Council, is Secretary of the Triratna Trust (the Order charity), and coordinates the Triratna Restorative Pilot Project.
Shantigarbha has led NVC workshops and retreats in the UK, the Middle East, the US, India and Sri Lanka and offers coaching / counselling for individuals and couples. In 2011 he ran a reconciliation retreat for 100 Israelis and Palestinians near the Dead Sea. He is author of a book on empathy: I will Meet You There.
He says: Communication can change the world. I want to connect with people, to create a safe learning environment, to have fun, to mourn and celebrate!
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NVC Life Hacks 9: If Yes Really Means No
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: In this NVC Life Hack, we look at those circumstances when we're saying yes ... but only kinda! Because we're still actually saying no. Shantigarbha and Gesine look at the needs that aren't being met.
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NVC Life Hacks 8: Saying No
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer
It can be difficult to be authentic when that means saying no. So how do we say no in a way that invites people to listen? Here are our four top tips for finding the courage to say no.
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NVC Life Hacks 7: Facilitation
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Leading a Nonviolent Communication workshop is a good way to learn and practice NVC skills. Here are Shantigrabha and Gesine's seven top tips for facilitators.
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NVC Life Hacks 6: Mourning
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Mourning is not just a process that happens after someone dies: it's an experience we go through with loss of any kind. Here, Shantigarbha offers us seven tips for working with mourning and healing.
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NVC Life Hacks 5: Conflict
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Conflict occurs when disagreements undermine the sense of trust and safety in family, workplace, or community. Shantigarbha shares nine tips for addressing, and even transforming conflict.
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NVC Life Hacks 40: Compassionate Requests
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Have you ever used the phrase "it was just a miscommunication."? We're often good at identifying when communication breaks down but not so good at finding out what went wrong and how we can improve. In this NVC Life Hack, we take a look at different typ...
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NVC Life Hacks 4: Anger
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Anger is an emotion we'd often like to disown! Shantigarbha offers us five tips for "finding the life" in our anger, and ends with a short, guided reflection.
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NVC Life Hacks 39: Transforming Anger
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: We live in a world where there is a lot of anger. It can be a strong and intense emotion that we feel or receive from others sometimes on a daily basis. Whether that's an agitated partner, road rage, or a disgruntled colleague.
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NVC Life Hacks 38: The Limitations of Saying "I'm Sorry"
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Have you ever said 'I'm Sorry' to someone, only for it to leave you feeling disappointed and lacking connection?
In some cultures, saying 'I'm sorry' has become too easy and is used for all sorts of situations. Whether it's just to excuse yourself as... -
NVC Life Hacks 37: Connecting Your Feelings With Your Body
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: We can get stuck in our heads. All kinds of thoughts float into our minds. We then get thoughts about those thoughts, they might even make you feel a certain way or change a behaviour. But what happens when we connect our feelings with the physical sens...
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NVC Life Hacks 36: From depression into life
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: How can Nonviolent Communication practices support us when we're feeling depressed? Taking a look at some characteristics of depression and how they're linked to unmet needs, we offer some steps to take that help you reconnect with life and others.
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NVC Life Hacks 35: Hearing a difficult message
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Being put on the spot or confronted in an unexpected way can be an unpleasant experience to have. Even more so during lockdown when meetings are held on Zoom.
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NVC Life Hacks 34: When Working From Home Clashes with Home Life
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Have you been struggling with the difficulties that can arise from working at home? If you're used to working from an office, a space that is designed for work, it can be a shock working from a space that is usually associated with other kinds of activi...
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NVC Life Hacks 33: Mediation in an Informal Setting
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Mediation is a great skill to have whether it's for your personal relationships or in the workplace. We look at four different techniques and their benefits in a role-play that takes place in an informal, unorganised setting.
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NVC Life Hacks 32: Mediation in a Formal Setting
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Mediation is a great skill to have whether it's for your personal relationships or in the workplace. We look at four different techniques and their benefits in a role-play between two neighbours discussing a dispute.
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NVC Life Hacks 31: Learning from Limitations
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Whenever we make mistakes, we're often beating ourself up in a way that breeds guilt, fear and/or shame. Nonviolent Communication offers a model based in self-empathy that lets you reflect, process and move forward without the guilt, fear and shame.
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NVC Life Hacks 30: How to Stay Sane in the Climate and Ecological Emergency
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: With more and more news coverage on the increase in climate events around the world, climate change is slowly becoming accepted as an emergency. But how do we stay sane amongst all the chaos and to go one step further how can we take action whilst being...
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NVC Life Hacks 3: How to Listen
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: In the third in a series on applying NVC to daily life, Shantigarbha follows directly on from Episode 2, showing us that listening isn't a passive activity, and offers five tips for how to improve our listening skills.
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NVC Life Hacks 29: Inner Conflict
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: A 5-step process to ease inner conflict and gain clarity on tough decisions.
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NVC Life Hacks 28: Celebrating Life
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Sometimes life gets so busy that even the things you enjoy seem to go by without you receiving that feeling of joy. It's important that even when we are busy to celebrate life to the full. In this month's Life Hack Gesine explores 7 things to keep in mi...
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NVC Life Hacks 27: Compassionate Parenting
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: When the pressure is on whether that's rushing out the door for the school run or getting them to bed on time, it's easy to leave all our best practices to one side. Luckily Nonviolent Communication gives us some useful tools to add to our metaphorical ...
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NVC Life Hacks 26: Life-enriching education
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: A lot of us picked up new hobbies and learning new things during the COVID lockdown. After recently posting a puzzle on Facebook, Shantigarbha ended up being delightfully surprised at the conversation it began around NVC in relation to learning and educ...
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NVC Life Hacks 25: Deepening the Roots of Self-Empathy
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: In this Life Hack, we're going deeper into self-empathy with a simple guided reflection that you can work through. This will be followed by a short exercise with a fill-in sheet (link above) led by Gesine and is something you can come back to as you wis...
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NVC Life Hacks 24: Bridge & Self Expression
Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Welcome to the final video in our 3 part Embodied NVC Life Hack series. So far we've learnt about rewiring our brain from a flight, fright or freeze reaction to the choice of self-empathy, allowing us to centre and check-in with ourselves. In part two, ...