NVC Basics

NVC Basics

NVC Basics includes resources to help you understand and practice compassionate, connection-centered communication in everyday life. These resources introduce the foundational principles of Nonviolent Communication, including key concepts like observations, feelings, needs, and requests.

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NVC Basics
  • Why NVC Matters To Me?

    Mary Mackenzie, Certified NVC Trainer

    This video is free to view until March 12, 2026

    What drew you to Nonviolent Communication? In this touching reflection, Mary Mackenzie shares the moment that first lit her up with hope. In her very first class, she was asked to reflect on what she truly wan...

  • When to Speak, When to Listen: An NVC Approach

    Oren Jay Sofer, Certified NVC Trainer: Oren J. Sofer offers an NVC approach to navigating tough moments—balancing honest self-expression with deep listening. Discover how centering yourself, naming your intentions, and hearing the other person first can create the understanding needed for true co...

  • Unappreciated is NOT a Feeling

    Rachelle Lamb, Certified NVC Trainer

    Unappreciated, Judged, Disrespected, Offended, Manipulated ... people use these words to describe feelings but these are all words that describe interpretations instead. They're also words that get people's backs up. Talk about unproductive! The solution? Dev...

  • NVC LIfe Hacks 11: Effective Requests

    Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Underlying much of our communication is a request: when we say something, we're usually expecting something else — perhaps something subtle — in return. Let's look at how to make requests clearer and more do-able, avoiding the pitfall of demands.

    Key...

  • NVC Life Hacks 14: Purpose of NVC

    Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Nonviolent Communication at its core is about the quality of connection that will lead to everybody's needs being met. In this months 'Purpose of NVC' episode, we ask ourselves five questions that help us gain an awareness of where Nonviolent Communicat...

  • NVC Life Hacks 40: Compassionate Requests

    Shantigarbha Warren, Certified NVC Trainer: Have you ever used the phrase "it was just a miscommunication."? We're often good at identifying when communication breaks down but not so good at finding out what went wrong and how we can improve. In this NVC Life Hack, we take a look at different typ...

  • Looking at Anger from an NVC Perspective

    Wes Taylor, Certified NVC Trainer: In this vintage 1999 video, Wes Taylor leads a group of young people in a lively discussion on working with anger. He clarifies that anger is a valid feeling that is a product of "jackal" thinking and points out that anger is never the primary emotion; there is ...

  • NVC Tools: Observations, Feelings, Needs and Requests

    Wes Taylor, Certified NVC Trainer: In this introduction to Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Wes Taylor discusses the two basic aspects of NVC, the consciousness and the tools that help manifest the consciousness.

    By using his own examples and those put forth by participants, Wes touches on th...

  • Faux Feelings

    Yvette Erasmus, NVC Trainer:

    Yvette Erasmus shares her interpretation of the difference between "faux" feelings and feelings. "Faux" feelings imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame.

    Keywords:
    - OFNR
    - feelings
    - faux feelings
    - Yvette Era...

  • Using Right & Wrong Language

    Yvette Erasmus, NVC Trainer:

    Yvette Erasmus shares that we can translate or shift how we hear right and wrong language. We can use the cue - What is needed? I wonder what they are needing? This helps direct my attention to more relationality.

    Keywords

    - language of life
    - needs
    - consc...

  • About Self-Requests

    Yoram Mosenzon, Certified NVC Trainer

    Listen to Yoram Mosenzon discuss requests. He asserts that we can make requests of others and that we are making requests of ourselves throughout the day. The thing that has the biggest impact is how I make requests of myself.

    Keywords:
    - Yoram Mosenzo...

  • Clarifying the Confusion About Responsibility for Others' Feelings

    Yoram Mosenzon, Certified NVC Trainer: Yoram Mosenzon explores the core NVC principle that others do not cause our feelings—our interpretations and unmet needs do. Through a relatable and humorous example, the trainer highlights how different people respond with a wide range of emotions to the sa...

  • From Self-Connection to Self-Expression

    Yoram Mosenzon, Certified NVC Trainer: Yoram Mosenzon discusses judgmental dialogue and its hidden aim to meet needs. This often creates distance instead of fostering connection. Yoram introduces a self-connection exercise to improve the chances of dialogue becoming more enriching and life-servin...

  • The Communication Difference: Create the Life and Work you Want

    Yoram Mosenzon, Certified NVC Trainer: Yoram Mosenzon shares an exercise and demo to explore the process of identifying observations and using judgments (jackals) to find the needs.

    Keywords:

    - Yoram Mosenzon
    - classical NVC
    - exercises/practices
    - jackal show
    - observation...

  • Naming the Feeling and Need

    Sarah Peyton, Certified NVC Trainer: When you experience an emotion, your body send a message to your brain that lights up the amygdala. Then what? Listen as Sarah Peyton demonstrates the NVC practice of Naming the Feeling and Need, which calms the amygdala and enables you to move into relational...

  • Creating the Life You Want With Powerful Requests: 5 Session Course

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    Miki Kashtan, Certified NVC Trainer:

    Uncover what prevents you from asking for everything you want without fear. The class includes daily practices for ongoing skill building. Listen to this exciting audio with Miki Kashtan and gain a greater sense of power in your life as you learn to ask fo...

  • Navigating Vulnerability: The Power of Nonviolent Communication

    Yoram Mosenzon, Certified NVC Trainer: From a Nonviolent Communication (NVC) perspective, expressing vulnerabilities by labeling someone as selfish can create disconnection and conflict. Instead of fostering understanding and support, this type of communication often leads to misunderstanding and...

  • How to Stay Present & Vulnerable in Difficult Conversations

    Oren Jay Sofer shares how to stay present and grounded during difficult conversations, especially when we feel judged or criticized. He describes how awareness of bodily sensations—such as tension, trembling, or the urge to react—can help us channel our energy in a constructive way. Oren highligh...

  • Self Assessment Matrix

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    Jim and Jori Manske, Certified NVC Trainers

    This self-assessment matrix is a concrete step toward naming and clarifying many skills that you may find valuable in your life. We suggest you periodically assess your skills to track your progress. Listen to this audio overview and download the Self ...

  • Observation: Awareness of Thought, Story & Core Belief to Enhance Connection

    John Kinyon, Certified NVC Trainer: In this recorded course, John Kinyon, world renowned CNVC Certified Trainer, guides you through processes to strengthen your capacity for mindful presence and awareness of your thinking, and to develop the skills to translate thoughts into observations.
    You wil...

  • 3 Levels of Observation

    Roxy Manning, Certified NVC Trainer:

    There is more to the NVC skill of Observation than the external level of what a video camera sees or hears. In this video, Roxy demonstrates that to fully understand what is happening, we need to know all three layers of observation: External, Internal, and S...

  • Sherlock Holmes of the Heart

    Sylvia Haskvitz, Certified NVC Trainer: In this audio recording, Veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, Sylvia Haskvitz uses real-life situations to help us find more natural expressions of what is harmony with our hearts.CNVC Certified trainer Sylvia Haskvitz:
    "People have often said to me, 'Can you sa...

  • Make Peace With All Your Feelings

    Yvette Erasmus, NVC Trainer

    This video is free to view until March 24, 2026

    Yvette Erasmus suggests that making peace with our feelings reduces suffering. Sometimes we want to hurry through our feelings and just feel better. A nonviolent way of working with our feelings is to be present as our ...